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My husband and I have been married now for a little over 6 years and we have never purchased a car together. In fact we’ve never purchased anything that big. We were blessed with two Suburbs that were gifts one before we were married and one shortly after. They have run great, but like all great things one is coming towards the end of our time with it.
We have some strict criteria when looking for a car, which might be why we don’t own a new one. All of my husbands length is in his torso, so finding a car to fit him has always been a challenge. We are almost sick to our stomachs at the thought of car payments, and we’ve never had over 10,000.00 in savings for a “new car.” However, one day driving to the supermarket I drove past a red Dodge Durango for sale at 3,500.00. To good to be true was my thought, so I kept driving. Day after day I would drive past the parking lot, and finally my curiosity got the better of me and I called. Turns out nothing is wrong with it,my husband fits, and it’s perfect for a growing family. But what is stopping us from purchasing the car has nothing to do with the car.
My fear of writing anymore would spin the story into something I will regret in the morning, so I won’t go into it anymore then to say that the discussion of this car took a horribly wrong turn. I heard one thing and he heard another. Both of us said mean things and believed the worst of the other. We were spinning out of control.
In our marriage we have been taught to trust each others intentions and words. To believe that at the core of who we are we chose one another, therefore within an argument there is love, and a teachable moment if we take the time to listen. Our disagreement about the car brought up insecurities I have had and his feelings were hurt for very similar reasons.
Today I woke up assuming our clash was one of the Titans and there was no hope, but he did not see things like that. He chose to see it as an argument and choosing to be teachable. I am thankful for our marriage and that we are two very different people, because if we were the same nothing would get done.
We don’t have a new car in the driveway, but I do have a deeper respect and understanding of my husband, and that is better then a new car.:)